The Shift Doctors have had the honor of having Dr. Bernie Siegel write a wonderful foreword to our book Shift A Woman’s Guide to Transformation. Bernie has touched many lives all over our planet. In 1978 he began talking about patient empowerment and the choice to live fully and die in peace. As a physician, who has cared for and counseled innumerable people who’s mortality has been threatened by an illness, Bernie embraces a philosophy of living and dying that stands at the forefront of the medical ethics and spiritual issues our society grapples with today. He continues to assist through his numerous books & CD’s, talks and teachings in the breaking of new ground in the field of healing and spreading the message of kindness and love . Among his books are Love, Medicine & Miracles, Peace, Love & Healing, How To Live Between Office Visits, Prescriptions for Living, Help Me To Heal , 365 Prescriptions For The Soul, Smudge Bunny, 101 Exercises For The Soul, Love, Magic & Mud Pies, Buddy’s Candle and Faith, Hope & Healing Bernie’s web site is: www.BernieSiegelMD.com
He Who Laughs Last by Bernie Siegel, MD
Love and laughter are required to build and hold our lives together. For me love makes up the bricks which we build out of. Ask yourself what you are capable of loving and you will know what your life is about. But what holds that life and the bricks together? We need mortar and the mortar of life is humor. For me this represents childlike humor that isn’t offensive and doesn’t hurt or upset anyone. Humor of this type heals lives.
One of the things that convinced me of the value of humor occurred one evening when my wife and I were out lecturing. My wife Bobbie does stand up one-liner comedy as part of our presentation so people can feel the benefit of laughter and not just hear a lecture about how it alters our physiology. On this particular evening I did not take her seat in the audience, as I usually do, because of the set up of the stage. I sat behind her and watched the audience. The change in their physical appearance after laughing for 15-20 minutes was striking and made me a firm believer in the benefits of humor. Two of her straight lines are, “He who laughs lasts” and “Laughter is contagious be a carrier.” I agree.
On a personal level what I mean by childlike humor is about seeing the world through a child’s eyes. If you see a sign, Wet Floor, go ahead and do it. On airline flights I would come out of the lavatory looking worried and say, “I may have damaged the plane.” Attendants would hurry over and I’d say, “I dropped something from Italy in the toilet and then I saw the sign, Don’t throw foreign objects in the toilet.” Now all the planes have signs that say, Don’t throw solid objects in the toilet because of crazy people like me.
Many years ago I fell off our roof when a ladder I was climbing broke. I announced to the audience I was telling the story to that I must have an angel because I landed on my feet which seemed physically impossible considering the angle of the ladder etc. A man came up at the end of my talk and said, “You do have an angel and I know his name.”
“I said how do you know?”
“What did you say when the ladder broke?”
“That’s your angels name.”
I laughed but didn’t realize what a gift he gave me. Now whenever I get into difficult situations and blurt out, “Oh Shit” I start laughing because I know help is on the way. Feel free to make use of my angel when you are in need.
One other example of childlike behavior and humor is in the instructions you either read or hear from people. When it says, sign in upon entering, write, in upon entering. When it says, print your name, print, YOUR NAME. When the sign says, nobody allowed here, go on in and when they shout at you tell them you’re a nobody. Most of the time they let you go knowing if you’re that stupid you are no danger. One guard stepped in front of me and said, “I’m making you somebody and you have to leave now.” Another child appears and I gave him a hug.
The last point I would make is that the world is filled with pain. Why add to it? Why not help heal it? The majority of people feel the world is unfair. It isn’t. It is just difficult. So make it easier for yourself and others. When people ask me, “How are you feeling today?” I say, “Depressed. Out of my antidepressant and my doctor is away so I can’t renew my prescription.” Three quarters say, “I know how you feel and tell me their troubles and offer me some of their antidepressant.” I am not kidding when I tell you this. The others embrace me and help heal me because they have been loved and have joy in their lives.
Be a healer and spread joy through humor and laughter. The world is a human comedy if we but see it that way. Yes, it is a tragic comedy at times but he who laughs lasts. Remember it is not healthy to be serious and normal. Trying to be normal is only for those who feel inadequate. So be a carrier and spread joy and healing. If you embarrass your children regularly they will thank you later in their life. Our children come home and say, “Thanks Dad.” When I ask why they are thanking me they say they either did something crazy at work or school and instead of their being criticized they heard people say, “Well you know who his father is.”
Peace… and Loads of Love and Light!
Bernie (with The Shift Doctors– a.k.a. Tracy Latz MD & Marion Ross PhD)
Dr. Bernie Siegel, who prefers to be called Bernie, not Dr. Siegel, was born in Brooklyn, NY. He attended Colgate University and Cornell University Medical College. He holds membership in two scholastic honor societies, Phi Beta Kappa and Alpha Omega Alpha and graduated with honors. His surgical training took place at Yale New Haven Hospital, West Haven Veteran’s Hospital and the Children’s Hospital of Pittsburgh. He retired from practice as an assistant clinical professor of surgery at Yale of general and pediatric surgery in 1989 to speak to patients and their caregivers. In 1978 he originated Exceptional Cancer Patients, a specific form of individual and group therapy utilizing patients’ drawings, dreams, images and feelings. ECaP is based on “carefrontation,” a safe, loving therapeutic confrontation, which facilitates personal lifestyle changes, personal empowerment and healing of the individual’s life. The physical, spiritual and psychological benefits which followed led to his desire to make everyone aware of his or her healing potential. He realized exceptional behavior is what we are all capable of.
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