Weight Loss and Dieting Often Come with Judgment
Does anyone else freak out a bit when people start noticing your weight loss? I had a friend tell me: “I have tried so many diets in the past and while this one is working the best by far – somehow I’m still afraid of failure.”
Yes- fear of failure as well as fear of success is a very common pitfall for dieters or even people just self-conscious about weight issues. Who else fears failure from time to time? How can we change our thinking on this as a group?
When a friend or family member comments on your weight loss it can trigger feelings of now being watched closely for how the weight loss continues – or doesn’t. Fear of judgment and sense of guilt or shame if one feels like they are not upholding the path conveyed of weight loss can cause a person to give up, stop their healthy habits, or self-sabotage in other ways.
Conversely, if a person grows up in a family where many are overweight- or if one has a significant other who is overweight- then comments from these persons can start creating a fear that if you succeed in weight loss, then you no longer ‘belong’ since you are not ‘like’ them anymore. It can create self-sabotage through fear of abandonment by your self-identified group/how you have defined yourself.